This was one of my favorite books as a child. The story is about a bull, named Ferdinand, who grows up differently from all the other bulls. Instead of fighting, he likes to sit in the meadows all day long and smell the flowers.
When it comes time to pick the biggest, baddest, meanest bull to fight in the ring, the people who pick bulls see Ferdinand kicking and giving off an awesome display of madness because Ferdinand just happened at that moment to be stung by a bee. So they cart him off and put him into the ring. Everyone is clapping and all the fighters are very scared. But Ferdinand goes to the middle of the ring and sits down amongst all the flowers the beautiful women have thrown. No matter what they do to prod him, they can’t get Ferdinand to fight. So eventually they cart him back to the meadow, where he goes to sit under his favorite tree and is happy.
I love this story to this day. I love children’s books more than many because the best ones often contain lessons about life with few words and lots of pictures! When I re-read this book recently, I thought, not only is it a wonderful story to share, but it struck me that there are many similarities to Taoist principles.
According to Tao, one does not force oneself to do things that are unnatural. There are popular sayings in the West, too, such as – “Do not try to fit a square peg into a hole.” Many of us know the saying – take some time to stop and smell the flowers. What does this mean?
Ferdinand is not lonely when he sits by himself in the meadows. He is not doing anything but enjoying his surroundings in the moment. He may be solitary when he does this, but this is a solitude that brings him happiness.
We have so many distractions in our lives today. Personally, in the past year, I have found myself wasting too many hours on my smartphone, surfing the news, playing games, etc. This fills the space in my mind temporarily with distractions. More than that, it takes away from my quiet time and space to simply be still and silent so that my mind is open and relaxed.
When we find ourselves in a quiet space of the mind without distractions, we can be more creative and feel inspired. If we are constantly busy, trying so hard to fill the empty spaces with tv, games, news, whatever it is available in front of us to keep us “busy” without purpose, we often end up missing feeling in touch with ourselves, others, and our immediate surroundings. As I am writing now, I stop and feel the breeze coming through my window. I notice the light. I feel quiet and content. But if I’m on my smart phone, I often don’t enjoy or appreciate this at all.
As for fighting, we fight in our minds. We fight ourselves, if not others. We get angry because people don’t live up to our expectations. We lose touch with nature and ourselves, which is easy to do when we are pummeled by advertisements and a constant pressure of what life should be, instead of listening to ourselves and following our instincts and being truly in touch.
So take the time to stop and smell the flowers. Put down your cell phone, turn off the tv and stereo. You might be surprised at what you find.